Thursday, December 13, 2012
Up on My Soap Box
First of all I just want to say that Sacrament Meeting is not the place for a protest. Neither are any of the other Sunday meetings. It is a time to worship God, renew our covenants with Him and gain further knowledge of the gospel. Nobody cares what you wear to church. In our ward in Ohio, people came to church in scrubs, jeans, and yes more that one woman was wearing a pant suit. At least they were there for the right reasons.
I believe the reason some women feel that there is inequality in this church is because we can not hold the priesthood and therefore can't be bishops, stake presidents or even the prophet. Also, there are some who think the role of women that the church teaches is outdated and oppressive, i.e. being the homemaker and having the sole responsibility of rearing their children. And wearing a skirt to church of all things.
I feel very sad for these women. They do not understand the teachings of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. I'm not saying I have a perfect knowledge of it myself. What I am saying is that I do understand Heavenly Father's plan for our roles as men and women.
I know my Father in Heaven loves me. He loves me as much as he loves His sons. He has said that all are alike to Him. I don't think this means that we all have the same responsibilities. We each, as men and women, have separate and equally important roles in life.
I'm also sad because these women are over looking the most wonderful thing we have been blessed with. Women have the ability to grow a person in our bodies, give birth to that person and be that persons mother. That is one thing men are not able to do, nor will they ever be able to.
As stated in The Family: A Proclamation to the World, men hold the priesthood. They are the providers. They bless their families. They give their families the masculine love and protection women cannot provide. Women give birth. They are blessed with a soft heart and therefore are nurturing and giving. They rear their children. They give their families the feminine love and support men cannot provide. The church is very specific about these roles for a reason. Heavenly Father has planned it this way. He knows all things. I know he speaks directly to our prophet and this is what the prophet has told us we must do. Whoever thinks otherwise does not have a testimony of revelation. Or this gospel for that matter. To that I say, you can absolutely find a church that better suits your needs. You have that choice.
Heavenly Father loves his daughters so very much. Of this I am certain. I feel equal with my husband in all things. We may have different responsibilities, but I have not now nor have I ever felt oppressed or looked down on by him or any of the men in my life. Quite the opposite. I feel lifted up and praised. I feel loved and appreciated. Those women who do feel oppressed and looked down on have certainly had some experience or another that has made them feel that way. That is not the work of the church. That is the work of individuals. Men are not perfect. Even bishops and stake presidents make mistakes.
Women in this church hold positions of leadership. They teach congregations. They go on missions. There are few churches in this world where that is the case.
I feel equally yoked with my husband. I am so thankful for this gospel and all that I have received from my Father in Heaven. I am so glad I get to be the one to bear children and nurture and rear them.
And I think pant suits are ugly.
P.S.
Elder D. Todd Christofferson of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles gave a wonderful talk similar to this topic. He warns against changing gender roles. Here is the link if you want to read it.
Sunday, November 20, 2011
Movember
This was actually Halloween. I kept it like this for that whole week. I felt like I might be pushing the limit that the school would tolerate.
So I moved to this. About 9/10 people told me that I should get some wax, but I was way ahead of them. I'd get it all waxed up and it looked like a frigging longhorn.
So here it is today. I haven't trimmed my mustache since the beginning of August. By this time, Kristy is near the end of her patience with my goofiness and I am too. I know why they call mustaches soup strainers.Monday, October 24, 2011
Sweet Caroline, "Let's Go Pitt!" (That was for you Kameron)
Monday, October 17, 2011
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Another Year Wiser...ish

I do enjoy Cleveland autumns though. I love when the leaves start to fall. When they get raked up, it creates mountains. Seriously, they're almost 6 feet tall. The colors are brilliant and there are SO many trees, it makes for a gorgeous landscape. And the apples, oh, the apples!!
Anywho, I turned 32 yesterday. I’d like to say that I’m as mature as my years suggest. But I can not say that. Because I would be lying. I am 16 in my head. I think it will probably change slightly as the years go by, but in my observation of the adult world, I’ve come to conclude that there is no such thing as a grown up. We are all just kids trying to live responsible lives, taking care of our own children (not me, but soon. And no, that’s not an announcement). That, I think, is what gets us through this life. It would be sad if we didn’t have that kid we used to be, in our heads telling us to calm down and have fun once in a while. I’m grateful that I can still find joy in the small things.
My birthday was awesome. Just me and my baby. He got me a beautiful string of pearls! He was right when he said that every woman needs a classy pearl necklace. I didn’t know that until I opened that blue box. I was delighted! I was also able to web cam with my wonderful familia. My nephew and I spent some time making faces at each other and doing karate chops. He would put his cute little hands together and bow every now and then and say “Master” (he’s really into Kung Fu Panda). How cute is that? He is such a delight. I can’t find another word for it. He’s just a delight. What would we do without that kid? I don’t even want to find out. I’m so grateful for adoption. What a miracle that is.
32 will be good. I hope it will bring me my own miracles, adopted or not. We’ll see what happens.
Happy Fall Everyone!!!!!
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
Sunday, June 26, 2011
Continuation...
I didn't really need to think about it at all. I've known these things all along. I've read my journal. I've prayed and read the scriptures. After doing all of this, I've come to a firm conviction. Yes, I would still be bold in saying that I know this is the true church even if I was being tortured, even if everything I have and everyone I love was taken from me.
I know that what I've been taught is true. Yes, there have been times when I've wavered and doubted, but those doubts have been quickly washed away when I've prayed and remembered that it has been confirmed to me many times that I know my Savior lives. I know that He was born to a virgin and that He performed many miracles.I know that He suffered for the sins of all of us in the garden of Gethsemane. I know that He was resurrected and appeared to Mary, the apostles and also to the people in the early Americas. I know that God the Father and Jesus Christ appeared to a fourteen year old boy named Joseph Smith to tell him that he was to restore the true church of Christ to the earth. I know that President Thomas S. Monson speaks directly to God.
I know that Heavenly Father hears my prayers. I know that when I obey Him, I am blessed with happiness and peace. I know that Christ is always with me. I know that He has already walked the path of my life. He knows what I'm feeling every second. I know that He loves me. I know that I can't comprehend how much He loves me. I know that He has saved me. He has made it possible for me to be with my Heavenly Father and those I love forever. I know that I can never repay Him.
I can say these things and stand up to the ridicule and slander that would be thrown at me because I know that they are true. I know that being ridiculed is only a small moment.
I know these things of myself. This knowledge isn't borrowed from my parents. This knowledge has been given to me from my Father in Heaven. I don't live my life this way because it's "comfortable". I live this way because I know this is what my Heavenly Father wants me to do.
I know these things, I don't just believe them. I would defend this knowledge with my life.
Oh, and I know that the Garden of Eden was in Jackson County, Missouri (hey it had to have been somewhere).
Monday, June 13, 2011
Awards of Tony

I liked seeing all the performances. It was very entertaining. One of my favorites, was War Horse! That was amazing. It's a musical that uses a horse puppet. Puppet is putting it lightly. It's more like a feat of engineering!! Look it up! Worth your time. That's one I'd really like to see.

The musical, The Book of Mormon won nine whole awards! I was appalled when I heard that the producers of South Park (a show I’ve never seen and have no desire to see) made a musical making fun of something that is very dear and sacred to me. I was curious, so I read the plot. It’s about a missionary who serves in Africa and is confronted by an evil village war lord. I went on to read some reviews. It seems that it is a comedy and a vulgar one at that. It wasn't negative, just lots of vularity, which is why I won't ever be seeing the show.
So I was nervous when they performed a song from the musical at the Tony awards. This missionary sings about how he was excited to go on his mission but his faith was shaken because of the bad things that were happening to the village. He starts singing about the things he believes in and his faith is restored. It was funny and the missionary was spot on, right down to the part in his hair. He was bright eyed and cheerful and walked right up to the war lord and sang to him that he should get baptized, as the war lord stared at the missionary like he was crazy. In the song, it described the things that we as Mormons believe. As the beliefs were being listed, the audience was laughing. I found myself amused as well, not in a “I’m mocking my religion” sort of way, but in a "laughing at myself” sort of way. The things we believe are peculiar. For example, believing that the Garden of Eden was in Jackson County, Missouri. To someone who isn’t a member of this church, that would sound weird. Think about that; the Garden of Eden in Missouri? Weird, right? And yet, that is something I believe to be true. Just like I believe that Christ came to this earth to die for me. I believe that God the Father and Jesus Christ appeared to Joseph Smith in a grove of trees to tell him that he would be the one to bring the true gospel back to the earth. I believe that God speaks directly to President Thomas S. Monson so that we may know His will for us (by the way, the actor was singing about all of these things and the audience was laughing, a LOT). In the song he kept saying, “because a Mormon just believes”, as if we haven’t taken the time to find out for ourselves to know that these things are true, not JUST believe them.
I found myself thinking, yes these things seem odd and peculiar. Do I really know these things, or do I just believe them? I spent the rest of the evening in quiet introspection. What do I know to be true? Is what I have believed my entire life true? Would I be able to stand up to ridicule and slander? Would I be able to defend it? Would I be bold enough to proclaim that this is the one and only true church on the earth? And withstand the persecution that would follow? Would I still be bold if I was being tortured? Would I defend it with my life?
To Be Continued….
Sunday, June 12, 2011
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
I am doing all that our finances will allow, going to doctors, trying everything we can. I'm praying everyday. So it's not like I'm doing nothing and complaining about not getting what I most desire.
I hate that this pain comes in waves. It ebbs for a while. I feel like I can make it through anything. Then it returns with such a strong force that it catches me off guard. Then the questions come, as they always do. Why is this not happening for us, when it's something that's such a righteous desire? This is what I was put on the earth for, right? This is why I'm a woman. This is what has been commanded of us. So why is it so hard? Why do others have such an easy time at it? I know Heavenly Father has this all under control. I just get impatient and want to grab the big picture out of His hands and look at it for myself. I don't know what I would do then. Probably get even more impatient because I'll know what's coming.
I'm so happy, so very happy for friends who don't have this problem. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. It's so hard. But I can't wait for the day when I can join in their happy cries of "We're expecting!" I don't want to be misunderstood. I want my friends to tell me if they are expecting. It's such happy news that I love to be a part of. I don't want people to walk on egg shells around Ryan and I. This is just a trial that we've been chosen to go through.
And go through it we will. I know that there is a loving Father in Heaven who watches out for us. There is hope.
There are occasionally hard days for each of us. Do not despair. Do not give up. Look for the sunlight through the clouds. Opportunities will eventually open to you.
- President Gordon B. Hinkley
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
It's Here!
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
I'm a Writer
This has given me cause to reevaluate myself and what I do and what I am becoming. I used to read A LOT! I used to write A LOT! In fact, I was getting really good at writing, so good I wanted to write a book and have it published and have a movie made from it (Ok, maybe I'm not that good)! I'm not being arrogant, I'm just saying that I was blessed with a gift that I have successfully buried...deep.
So, now I think it is time to pick up that figurative shovel and start digging my talent out of the dirt, for that is indeed where I have buried the poor thing, right in the dirt. First of all, I need to ask forgiveness from my Father in Heaven for neglecting this talent that He has given me. Because I know that it's from Him that I have received it. Second, I have to be patient with myself, which I'm not very good at. I've been getting frustrated lately when I try to write. I get a block. I hate the block! But I just have to realize that it takes time to get back to where I was, and become better. Writing in my journal will help. Just putting down in words what is going on in my head, not worrying that someone will read it and think I'm crazy (which, if someone did read my journal, they would for sure know that I'm crazy), will help so much in digging my way out.
Also, writing more on my blog. Sorry to those of you who read this blog, but I will be getting a little more personal, and a little bit more wordy. But like I've said in the past, I view my blog as a journal. Which shows you how much I write in my actual journal... not very much. And, anyway, you're the one who has chosen to read this blog, so I don't feel sorry for you.
I need to get on this before a pair of antennae start growing out of my head. I do not want to be like Jimmy Jet and turn into a T.V.!!
Monday, May 23, 2011
Monday, May 2, 2011
An Update and My Thoughts
I know events such as these can bring out the good and the bad in people, but it's so wonderful to see how much good can come of it. What I see is mostly good. I'm so grateful for people who give of themselves without even thinking about it. It's a wonderful thing.
Speaking of giving of themselves, our troops made an interesting discovery yesterday. And they shot and killed that discovery. Osama bin Ladan. The very name makes me cringe. He was the mastermind behind the 9/11 attacks, and many many other horrific things. He's been elusive for the past ten years, hiding in caves and such. But we caught him. Now he's dead. The president gave a speach last night giving the details of how it happened. Apparently he was the one to find him. He was the one who risked his life going to the place Osama was hidden and he was the one who pulled the trigger. Not really. That's just the way he made it seem. I'm glad that terrorist has finally been delt with, but the way Obama seemed to take credit for the whole thing just disgusted me. His approval rating has been dropping and I can't help but wonder if he's using this as a way to boost that. In fact, I don't wonder at all. That's exactly what he's doing. I know that it takes the permission of the Cheif to execute a military plan, but he kept saying "I", not "we". I'm so thankful for the many people who have given their lives in the fight against terrorism and who have been diligent and patriotic. I just wish we had a president who was made from the same stock as they. He did thank the troops and their families for their sacrifice, but it was tainted in my mind. If he wasn't so bent on getting his ratings up, it would have been a really nice speech. As you can see, I'm not particularly a fan of Mr. President.
Despite all of that, it's a good day. One of the most evil and vile people on earth has been killed.
"I've never wished a man dead, but I have read some obituaries with great pleasure". -Mark Twain
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Ruby Slippers
This is what you would call a tornado. Not just any tornado, an F5 tornado, which is the highest rating a tornado gets. It swept through Tuscaloosa, Alabama, where, it just so happens, my sister Kelly and her husband Andrew live, at 6 pm on Thursday April 27th. It blew one block away from Kelly, as she was huddled in her bathroom, trying to talk to Andrew on the phone. He couldn't hear her over the enormous sound of the wind. It was so close. She could hear glass breaking and the roof creaking. Her apartment building was shaking and she could hear trees being slammed to the ground. When it had passed, she walked out of the bathroom (which had no windows, smart girl) expecting to find her apartment demolished. It was, thanks be to God, in one piece. She walked outside to see the neighborhood across the street from her completely flattened.Andrew was on his way home from Birmingham. He had to park outside Tuscaloosa and walk the remaining two miles home. There was too much debris on the roads. But he made it home to Kelly safe and sound.
I can't imagine experiencing something like that. Kelly said the sound was terrifying, and she was experiencing this all alone. She's a strong woman. I'm thankful to my Father in Heaven that they are safe. It makes me sick thinking how close it got to Kelly.
With Kelly and Andrew living in Alabama, I had some slight worries that a tornado would touch down there. But I always imagined it to be one of those skinny little tornadoes. Never did I think a mile wide twister would rampage through their little city. I still just can't believe it. It's like, these things should only exist in the movies. I can't put into words how grateful I am that they are safe.
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
One of the Greatest Guys in the World
Leonard with Elder Jensen and Elder Saxton, the best missionaries ever, (I'll talk about those two later) on his baptism day.Leonard got baptized not long after he was introduced to the LDS church. He has lived his testimony to the utmost, and is such an amazing example. He told us that he was invited to try out for the Cleveland Cavaliers recruitment team. He was so excited. He found out the try-outs were going to be held on a Sunday. He knew that he would be compromising his beliefs and faith if he were to go through with it, so he decided not to try out. That is tremendous faith in action. I get choked up whenever I think about that.
He moved to Pittsburgh a few months ago, and we have missed him so much. He was in church last Sunday and it was really good to see him. He gave me a big hug (I hugged his waist). That made me so happy. He's preparing to go on a mission now. He's 25, so that is quite a sacrafice for him to leave. He's so kind and thoughtful. And he's funny. I wish him all the best. He deserves it. Seriously.
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Still?!?
cold snow is perched, if beautifully where blossoms should be.
Spring, I know I'm impatient, but seriously, you really need to get here like yesterday. Winter is just sticking around way too long. It has worn out it's welcome. Come on now, I thought we were buddies.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Monday, February 7, 2011
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Ketchup!
They were tasty, If I do say so myself.
who live in Alabama. It was so good to be with them.
A lot more than I thought it would be. But it was so much fun to make. :)
I've been blessed with very cute and good nieces and nephews. I wish they were all there
(my nieces and one nephew are in Japan), but I had so much fun with this one. :)
He got a new tricycle and loved it. It has Buzz Lightyear on it and he loves Buzz.
He kept pointing to the picture on the tricycle and saying "Buzz. Buzz." He is the most friendly and personable little kid I've ever met. He's only two and he's already super smart. I just loved being able to be there and seeing him. He can cheer anyone up, he's so cute.

